Sunday, January 29, 2017

If You Want To Fly You Have To Jump

We are always afraid of something. We are always questioning ourselves to death before we do something and maybe (for sure) we miss great opportunities because we are afraid of something, or someone. Today I wanted to talk to you about being more fearless in blogging and in life.

I used to be a very shy girl. I was acting like a baby who is afraid of the world. I was relying on others and I was depending on their opinion.
 So, when I was sixteen I got a job as a hostess at Sava Centar (a congress hall in my hometown) and I had to stop acting like a baby. I had to act like a grown up and I had to stand up for myself. It really helped me a lot to get over my shyness and to gain confidence. I was constantly working with people and I had to deal with everything on my own. So it was a big step for me.
About the confidence, I still don't think I'm at my best place but I'm getting there. As you are getting older you are learning to love yourself more and to be less critical. And last but not least, to accept your flaws and start working on them. I think that’s the most important one. If you don't like something about yourself and you can change it, what are you waiting for? Start working on it!

Get out of your comfort zone!
This is a crucial one in life and in blogging. If you want something you never had you have to do something you never did. If you want to fly, you have to jump! Learn to say yes to opportunities and adventures! Attend events, don't be afraid to approach people. Go to dancing or painting class (alone) and you will be amazed with the results. It's important to challenge yourself constantly in order to be the best version of yourself. I was shy and afraid of talking to strangers and being on my own. What did I do, I got a job where I'm non stop surrounded by people.

People will always judge you.
Deal with it. You can't be loved by everyone and that's okay.  As long as there are people who appreciate and admire your work you are doing great. I know it's a lot easier to say it then to actually do it. I was always worrying too much about everything. Are people going to like my photos, do I look too fat, is my writing interesting? It's best to stop questioning and to make sure that you are giving 100% of  your efforts. At the end of the day people will probably judge you. Because people are people, and they need someone to talk about. There’s nothing you can do about it, it's going to happen and your worrying is not going to make it any less real. It's important to have supportive group behind your back, that's your family and friends, their opinion should matter to you.

Trying to please everyone is wrong!
You can't succed in anything if you want to please everyone. People will like you because of you and if you start doing things to please everyone you are going to fail. Still, not everyone is going to like you and you are going to feel very bad. In order to stop pleasing everyone you need to be aware of your value and you need to be confident about your work. My attempt to please everyone ended with a blogging break that was almost one year long. Every time when I started writing a post, there was an internal voice inside my head that was freaking me out. Is the content I’m writing any good? Is my grammar right? Are they going to read it? Learn from my mistakes. Let go of bad internal voices and start doing stuff. Be confident and happy about it and nothing else matters!

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

Coat - Zaful; Scarf - Zaful; Backpack - Zaful; Ankle Boots - New Look; Rings - PD Paola;

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Photography: Jelena Milosavljević (Beautyfineprint)

18 comments

  1. One of the main things I've learn through the years is that people will always judge. It's up to us whether to care or not, and I don't. Thanks for the motivation girl and I love this look!

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  2. These are really great life lessons to remember in life! I love that quote, "Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will." So very true! Love your effortlessly chic outfit by the way!

    xo, Jo
    www.cutandchic.com

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  3. I've had to learnt the heard way sometimes that you can't please everyone, but you can please some people, and those are the people worth keeping around :) great life lessons/ advice! I love your camel coat by the way!
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  4. Yess love the life lessons you shared with us. I had a friend who once told me that if you were so afraid of what other people though, you might as well let them make the decisions for you. That line really stuck with me cause it's so true and since I've definitely been stronger in staying true to myself and not care about other people's opinions.

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  5. Seriously love this post all about taking that leap of faith to achieve greater things. People will always judge and that's just a fact of life. Fear can be a crippling thing, but if we don't jump, how will we ever know if we can fly right?

    I love your burnt sienna coat! It gives serious Fall/Winter vibes and is the perfect length!

    xoxo,
    Maggie S.
    ❤Clothestomidnight.com

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  6. this outfit is so good! love it head to toe!

    xo, samira

    www.leathertolunch.com

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  7. You are quite right that people will judge, but it is generally from a place of uncertainty within themselves and has nothing to do with you. There is no point in listening to it, but to find your own way to be confident. Agreed!
    xx Jenelle
    www.inspiringwit.com

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  8. I totally agree with you! I think as women, self confidence is very important and will carry you throughout the rest of your lives. Once you realize that you can't please everyone and everyone will judge you no matter what, then you stop caring what others think and do what makes you happy. I am in love with this classic camel coat. Perfectly styled with those leopard boots and that amazing bag. xoxo, Christine
    http://dailykongfidence.com/

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  10. Hello Ana !!
    From us there is just a saying:
    "Do not all evil comes to harm" and it derives its true.
    The experiences help us grow.
    Beautiful your coat.
    Sending love from Italy
    Eva
    www.themermaidfashion.com

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  11. I love the advice you're giving and I couldn't agree more. There's no way of pleasing everyone, nor should one strive to do so! Let's just stay true to ourselves and people will love us for the ones we are :)
    xoxo
    Thomas

    http://thomasfalkenstedt.com

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  12. These are such great advice you're giving!! thanks for sharing it with us :)
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  13. I totally agree with your advice. And I just got that coat in another color - isn't it amazing?!
    XO
    http://www.lehoarder.com/

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  14. All your tips are right on. I used to be super shy too, but I stopped caring so much. Of course I still care, but not to the degree where I couldn't be myself. This was a really inspiring post and I hope to be bolder and not care so much of what the world thinks of me, because you're right, everyone will judge you and not everyone is going to like what you put out. Oh well!

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  15. Hey Darling:)
    How are you?
    It was so Inspiring Post, I agree With each point, especially, that "people always Judge"
    It was so Good to Read this now:)
    Thank you:)
    Love Open Kloset By Karina

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  16. great tips, my dear! love it! and love your long coat!

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  17. Love the coat and the scarf. They totally complement each other!

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  18. This outfit is so classic and ladylike. I definitely agree with all your posts.
    I have a hard time learning that you can't please everyone. I constantly judge myself and I try to give other people the same advice you are giving (which really is just ironic because I don't follow it lol)
    I think self care is extremely important and by reminding yourself of these things you're practicing self care! xx Belle

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